So I'm finally going to talk about that time I got Catfished. I'm going to change names because I'm nice like that. I think it's great that I'm actually at a stage of my life where I can laugh about what happened. Fake profiles are EVERYWHERE online, I have seen so many fake blogs. You can never be sure, always remember to be safe. No matter how old you are.
So... One day I got this message from someone called Peter, (remember fake names). After weeks of us re tweeting, faving and the odd tweet too each HE finally sent me a message. We chatted for hours, I remember I stayed up late just to speak to him. As you can imagine we got on like a house on fire, we had so many things in common. I think we fell for each other over night, we both had similar situations we was dealing with so attached on to each other pretty fast.
Peter was 25 from Argentina, I'd never spoke to anyone from there so just that alone was exciting. Oh my god weeks, months passed he was amazing, we was in 'love' everything was great. The only thing I can say was wrong now that I didnt realise at the time is that we had only ever spoke via twitter and whatsapp! I was happy with speaking to him this way, we texted 24-7 everyday. He was there when ever I needed him, time difference and long distance effected us. I relied on him that much and also enjoyed talking to him that much that I'd go to bed late just to carry on speaking to him, leaving myself with little or no sleep and had to work long shifts the next day. of course it was all worth it, who needs sleep anyway?
We had been dating a year, I often brought the talk of skype and facetime up but it just never happend for one reason or another. We spoke about meeting up, we actually spoke about this a lot. There was nothing we wanted more! I woke up one morning and Peter was like TONI SHALL WE JUST DO IT? we'll move to Brazil, be together, just us! The only thing I could think about was omg we will be together, live together and IN BRAZIL? why the frigging hell not. So I worked my ass off I saved and saved. I made enough money that I'd finally be able to buy a plane ticket to Brazil and have money left over to live on, it was all very exciting!
So two days before I was planning on booking my flight ticket I got the longest messaged I'd ever read. I read it about 10 times, I was in disbelief. Has the whole 14 months been a lie? is everything a lie? Peter sent a message and I'll never forget how it started. "Toni I love you but I cant lie anymore. My names not Peter, my name is dani and im a girl" A GIRL??? A FRIGGING GIRL?? i felt like a stupid tit to be honest. I never had any doubts that peter wasnt peter, I never had any doubts that peter was a girl. He acted like a boy! My life instantly got turned upside down, of course everything felt like a lie. I questioned everything he/she had ever said. Did this person even love me? who the hell knows. He/she said everything else was real and that they loved me and wanted me to live in Brazil. Small problem, I'm not a lessbian, I couldnt just become a lesbian. I couldn't forgive this person and how could I ever stay in a relationship with them? there was no trust. At least he/she told me before I booked the plane tickets. If things couldn't get any worst this person wasn't just catfishing me they had another account which they catfished peope on.
While I was getting Catfished I would watch the MTV show catfish and think it's so obvious how do they not know this is happening? How stupid was I, it can literally happen to anyone at anytime. You just don't think anything like that would happen to you. I don't speak to Dani anymore. That person has been completely cut out myself, I would never date online again, if I did I would meet them straight away. I am currently in a happy and healthy relationship with my boyfriend, we are trying for a baby and life is amazing. I now realise I was never in love withh Dani, as that relationship doesn't compare to my relationship now. You should be careful when speaking to people online, not everything is as it seems.
I hope Dani finds peace and happiness within herself. I don't hate her, yes I was embarressed for a while but I got over it. I think she obviously had bigger problems which she couldn't handle. If you do have a false account catfishing someone just take a minute and think how it would feel.